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Love…win every battle,
you who rule wherever you tread,
you who wake up girls with tender cheeks,
that you trot all over the seas and burrow in the gardens,
no one escapes from you
neither God nor mortal.
Whoever you touch, you spoil.

What is love? There is no definition that tells us exactly what it is and how you feel about it. It is something unique, intangible, intangible that when one feels it, one does not wonder if one has fallen in love, but one is absolutely sure because this feeling has engulfed one's whole 'being', one's whole soul! His every smile screams 'love'.

With love we express our longing and desire to connect with the different world of another person and to share our own world with them. We desire the union with another existence that will make our daily life take on another dimension, that will create an explosion of colors in us and around us and make us leave logic aside for a while.

Biologically…

When we encounter love in our lives we go through various stages of hormone secretion, which guide our behavior and emotions. So initially, the first feeling of love is the desire of another person, which is supported by the secretion of testosterone and estradiol in both people. Then more hormones come into play, such as cortisol and dopamine. The first is a key stress hormone and motivates us to respond to the explosion of emotions that is triggered within us. The second is responsible for the feelings of euphoria and satisfaction we feel. Along with their secretion, serotonin levels decrease. It is a regulatory hormone for the body. This is why the oppressive feelings of love appear, such as persistent jealousy and the tendency to extensively control the partner. Finally, oxytocin and vasopressin secretion is observed. These strengthen the erotic and deeper bond of love respectively.

Many scientists report that at the end of the first two years of the relationship, there is a balance in cortisol and serotonin levels. Many times we notice the fall of the feelings of passion and the maintenance of more love and care.

Here I come to disagree with a position that I often hear. 'Love goes away, love is what stays'.

I can't accept this. Call me a dreamer and naive but I can't accept it. Whatever happens hormonally, I believe that it is in the strength and will of every person and every couple to keep whatever emotion they want intact, such as flame and love.

In many matters, public opinion makes us rationalize, justify and compromise with situations.

When you see love and passion disappear from your life and you accept it because you believe there is love and interest, then you are simply trying to blind yourself and justify the loss of feelings that you enjoyed so much.

Love is not lost if you don't let it be.

Yes, we can be in a relationship and change as personalities, form different needs. But it is our choice the person who is next to us and once we chose this person because he made us burn with love, our legs cut at the sight of him, our heart beat like crazy at the sound of his voice. That person is still there by your side. The point is not to accept that the love is gone and that's okay because there is love. Because love can be something very deep and essential that gives more to your relationship... BUT it can also be something very weak when we talk about relationships.

Loving someone as a person and wanting them to be well does not mean that you also want their company, to share every minute of your day with them, to enjoy a Sunday with them, to sit cuddled on the sofa and talk for endless hours, does not mean that you want sleep and wake up with him. Love does not necessarily mean longing and desire for the other.

Love begets love. Precisely because it has motivated you to get to know the other person's world and when you see that this world suits you, then the relationship takes on another dimension and dynamic. The combination of romance and love keeps a relationship alive as well as the effort to keep that combination intact.

And you will tell me, but how is it possible to feel all this after 5, 7, 10, 20, 30 years with someone?

And I'll tell you, do you have the passion and appetite to try? If so, it can be done!

Because companionship, if you are with the person you want to be and you don't care about anything else, motivates you exactly for that, to strive for your choice. And when you will be with the one who when you hug him, it will be like a magical click happens, then you won't even feel like you are trying. You feel like you are living and creating the life you want with the person you chose and choose to be by your side every day.

Don't settle for something that doesn't cover you!

Don't rationalize the loss of feelings!

Consider why this is happening and what you want to do for your personal and companionship happiness. The love you dream of is on the way. But in order to find him, you also need to move forward. If you have found him, hold his hand and proceed to discover the world together. That's where the magic is!