Have you ever wondered why you or someone else acted a certain way and not someone else? Why do we make the decisions we make and the choices we make?
For example, a person usually goes straight home after finishing work but on a particular day he decides to go out to eat. What made him change this learned/habitual behavior in a different direction? The answer lies in what we called "motivation".
Motivations are both internal and external causes of behavior. In other words, instincts, desires, intentions, emotions, subjective interpretations of the world as well as rewards/rewards, punishments and fears respectively constitute situations that move the threads towards a behavior/action.
Thus, motivation is not solely about voluntary control of behavior. A motive can guide an action / behavior but not necessarily with a specific "purpose". Behavior may seem purposeful because it brings about a certain result but the mechanism that operates and influences the behavior is not always under the individual's conscious control.
When a person's conscious efforts to cope with an unpleasant situation into which they have been pushed either consciously or unconsciously fail, then defense mechanisms are activated. These are unconscious mechanisms that have a protective function for the organism.
The person forcibly, usually through selective forgetting/amnesia, blocks out a traumatic experience from entering the conscious level. The term should not be confused with its general meaning, that of removing an internal conflict.
It works like repulsion, as the person blocks the intrusion of external threatening stimuli. An extreme case is hysterical blindness, in which the person claims not to see but when walking does not fall into obstacles or behave as if he were born blind.
The person makes a distinction between the emotional and the cognitive part of a traumatic experience and chooses to recall only the latter. He avoids experiencing the emotional charge that comes with a traumatic experience.
It allows the control of a desire or impulse through the manifestation of diametrically opposed behavior.
A person attributes his own instincts, impulses and fears to another person. For example, in pathological jealousy, the person claims the partner's infidelity by essentially externalizing their own unconscious desires and urges to cheat.
Here we are dealing with compensatory or corrective actions that occur due to internal impulses or ideas. For example, a person who thinks that they were too lenient with another person in a certain situation, the next time will be driven to be too strict without the situation calling for it.
Here the imagination is transferred from one object or person to another. A frequent example is the displacement of aggression. A person argues with his superior but cannot vent his anger, so he vents it to a loved one. A form of displacement is also turning towards ourselves, as in the case of self-punishment, guilt, self-contempt, etc.
It refers to emotionally neutral explanations one uses to justify an action prompted by an impulse.
It refers to behaviors that state that the person does not recognize at a conscious level the existence of a threatening event and thus distorts a situation in order not to acknowledge the experience of an unpleasant situation. For example, there may be denial by a person that they are suffering from a serious illness or that a loved one has passed away.
The individual adopts the characteristics and behaviors of a significant role model. Identification takes the form of imitation in childhood which helps the individual to develop and enrich his repertoire of behaviors. In this case it is not a defense mechanism. But when it functions as a compensation for the pain, i.e. when a son identifies with the absent father and assumes his roles towards the family members, then it is a defense mechanism.
Whatever and whatever the answer is, with will and passion you can create the change you envision, carve yourself out and create the version of yourself you desire.
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